Why Do We Make Mistakes?
“Why do people make mistakes, mommy?” asked the 5-year-old during lunch today. Never had I expected such a question from her or any children that young. I guess what I really meant was: I haven’t seriously thought about that before, and I surely don’t know the answer to that question.
“Why, mommy?” She repeated quite impatiently.
You know how it’s like, they will not take “no” or “I don’t know” for an answer, nor would they be satisfied with asking just one “why”.
Guess I’d have to play safe?!
“People learn from mistakes, darling. Without making mistakes, you probably won’t know where the rooms for improvement and growth are,” I said.
“But why?” she asked again.
“Most of the time, people would make mistake on things that they had no previous experience in. That’s because they don’t know what or how to do it. And that is all okay as long as they learn from mistakes and don’t repeat.”
When I was left alone during their nap time, I started to ponder over the question again. Not so much on “why do people make mistakes”, though, but more on “why do we punish those who make mistake so much if a mistake is really how we learn?”
Especially now that many have access to social media; any mistake anyone makes, big or small, intentionally or not, could potentially tear that person into pieces just because many need to feed their “righteous” ego i.e. if I share a post of someone who “make a mistake” and criticize that person/behavior then it indirectly show that “I’m better than that person”.
And so we unconsciously created a bunch of people who are afraid of making mistakes and a bunch of people who want to appear perfect all the time.
“Does modern society have a place for someone like me? Someone who’s not picture-perfect. Someone who’s not successful by today’s standard. Someone who doesn’t really know where she’s going?”
You know, that used to be my background music. I was constantly afraid of being found “not as perfect”, “not as smart”, or even “not as chill” as I had appeared to be. Well, if you’ve read the book “Mindset” before, I guess I was a hardcore fixed mindset. Or maybe I had the “imposter syndrome”?
I don’t know.
But what I now know is that every experience you have, every path you take in life, you learn and grow. There’s no such thing as “wasted time”. There’s only right people, right time, right place…
A mistake is how we learn.
What I’ve found is that the only way to true happiness is to find your life purpose and work towards becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be.
And to make life “easier”, the only person you should compare yourself to is the past you, and nothing more.
Do you know that the caterpillar is totally destroyed in a cocoon before it turns into a butterfly? But that stuff that made the butterfly was same from that which made the caterpillar. But I may be wrong and please correct me if I happen to be because after all, I learn from making mistake.